The decision to divorce is one long and difficult road.
However, if you have made up your mind to go down this road, it is best to have a detailed plan that would help your transition smooth.
What if we told you that there is something you can do to get the best outcome you desire.
What is it anyway?
Mediation is the answer. The idea behind mediation is reaching an agreement that works for your life.
The agreement also involves you not spending your children’s college fund on attorney fees.
What is more?
You do not get to spend significant time or stress in court. Keep reading. You will get four tips on how to prepare for divorce mediation.
1. Accept To Mediate
First off, in most states, divorce mediation is voluntary; the best way to table all the issues is to agree to mediate.
For the mediation to be effective, both parties need to have a meaningful conversation. However, this does not imply that you and your spouse have to be buddies.
Before you agree to mediate, it is necessary to go over the advantages and disadvantages that are involved before you proceed.
Other questions such as logistics, how the fees would be split, what dates and times you need to commit to the sessions, and more are necessary to ask before proceeding with the whole process.
2. Get Organized
Putting things in order is the next thing after you have agreed to mediate. Since it is not the mediator’s job to determine what to do with what you have, it is crucial to make a list of all your assets and possessions.
Some of the things you should include are retirement accounts, financial products, vehicles, all real property, life insurance policies, personal properties, etc. In summary, do not leave any stone unturned—include everything you own.
Other records that could also come in handy include pension disbursements, child support payment, social security, paystubs, etc. Expenses like utilities, food, mortgage payments, credit card payments, car loans, and others should be included.
It is crucial to consult with an attorney or check your local rules for financial affidavit during the dissolution process.
3. Set Your Goals
The moment you have a comprehensive list, you have to decide what you want to do. No doubt, the process can be tasking; you have to make out time to figure out what is most and least important to you.
You will have to create a list on things you will love to get, things you can negotiate, and essential things you cannot leave behind.
While you are at it, draft a budget and make a projection. The projection gives you an idea of your post-divorce budget.
4. Have Your Kids in Mind
Divorce is usually hard on children; it is best to communicate what is happening to them regardless of their ages after all it affects their lives too. Both parents must agree and talk to the children together.
The process will not be easy on your children; you have to help them through the process by providing a loving, positive, and stable environment.
You also have to consider where your kids will spend most of their time.